They say that if you really want to stretch and grow, and then try doing something every day that scares you. What does this mean? Does this mean that the rent the latest blockbuster thrillers that have all the above and intestines and get your adrenaline will be a million miles per minute?
Not in my book, but I like philosophy. There are so many things that we probably take for granted that others find daunting. If you turn on a tabloid TV talk shows, you're libel to see someone with a strange phobia of balloons, or even trying to win one more normal level.
I know that I have used this test to my classes on charisma about embarrassing. Top with a few questions, you can usually find normal people who regularly find things to be embarrassed.
How about this list:
1 Going to a movie by myself
2 Going to dinner just
3 Walking into a party by myself
4 I travel to another city, rent a car and locate a destination all by myself
5 Taking in a bathing suit in front of your friends
6 Speaking before a group of people
7 Leading meetings
8 Flying the aircraft
9 Driving a race car
10 Handling snakes
Ok, did nothing on this list give you a little nervous? Usually, we all have things we jitters. But the trick is to do it over and over, until it becomes easy.
According to the book list, public speaking is the number one fear of all people. I've been in a public lecture business for a long time and seen my fair share of professional speakers and performers. I saw many people get nervous on stage and hide it, but one performer really stood out to me as a shining example of the fear and do it anyway.
It was Scott Thomas. Better known as Carrot Top!
I've seen it done before the college crowd years ago when his career was on the way up. He was doing his hilarious act demonstrates the creative uses he'd designed for individuals who use the regular things that combined to make something ridiculous, like putting long hair, pony tail at the end of a tennis racket Andre Aggessi when he had long hair. He was always guaranteed lots of laughs, because it was so outrageous. However, this time in the middle of the show, he stopped for a brief second and said to the audience, "oh my gosh! I just had a panic attack! Have you ever had a panic attack? I just had a panic attack right here in the middle of my performance!"
Then, with a rush of relief, he went on his show and did not skip the second beat.
I was blown away by his understanding of the human mind and personality. Not only did he allow himself to act beyond the ordinary and admit to having a panic attack, but he shared his distress to the audience, and kept running. For that moment alone, I knew that this man will never be stopped. He faced his fears head on, and then admit them walked through the fear.
If you turn on Oprah or Dr. Phil, you'll see that the peoples fears ranging from fear of flying to fear of some balloons! Some are real, and some are off the wall crazy. But one thing is certain, the more you are exposed to the thing you fear, you'll learn to deal with that fear and manage it.
people who I coach to speak publicly often get sick in the stomach just at the thought that he must stand before an audience. But taking the time to write your message, transcription, doctor it up, and then finally was trained makes them realize that they can beat your fear of public speaking. When I coach someone with this issue, I work with them more and more in a small room with a camera. I'm just in the room. In this safe environment, I am able to tell them first, and then show them, when they are improving their messages. My whole goal is to just get them to get yourself in any situation. When you reach the point of being able to laugh and joke, as if their friends in the room, then I know that they solve the problem and won!
What is it that scares you? Is it to meet new people? Is it going out and getting a job? Are you afraid for tax purposes? Are you afraid of heights?
After some fear is healthy for us as itit can allow all of our senses to their maximum capacity and vigilance will be fully functioning,but our fear that we run is another matter . It holds us back, it seems to lose things and events in life, because we will not even try.
This weekend, challenge yourself. Take on something that is frightening. Talk with that person you saw in the hall for years and never had the courage to meet. Take a trip to the pool and venture out into the deep end. Just do something ... NOTHING .. will be stretch.
I promise you, when you do, you'll feel accomplished and that you will want to challenge yourself even more. Good luck and have fun !!!
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